At times, people choose to bark at the wrong tree to wash their hands from their sins. They would make others feel guilty and go on living as if they’ve done nothing wrong. Such desperate move and so pathetic!
We’re all guilty of wearing a mask, of creating a nonchalant sophisticated facade at some point in our lives. We have different reasons in doing so. Though sometimes our reasons seems acceptable, in my own opinion, it may jeopardize our relationship with others especially with our relatives and friends.
Technically, you are using “Reverse Psychology” when you intentionally and strongly argue in favor of a decision or behavior while secretly wanting the receiver of your argument to endorse the opposite decision or behavior. It works because none of us like to be told what to do, so much so, that we often do the opposite of what we’re being pressured to do simply to re-establish our freedom or what psychologists call “autonomy,” perhaps the most powerful non-survival-based motivator.
There’s nothing wrong with using ‘Reverse Psychology‘ as long as the intention is good. Unfortunately, it has been misused by most people to make others feel guilty and get away from the wrongs that they did. Making someone feel responsible for the negative outcome of the wrong deeds that you’ve done is such a coward move. I pity the person who is buying this kind of approach.
While we may convince others that we didn’t do anything wrong, we knew deep inside that we’re guilty and no matter how hard we try, we knew that we cannot lie to ourselves. If you’re guilty of doing these things, I encourage you to step up and be brave to liberate yourself. Your peace of mind is in your hands and it’s waiting to be realized. Cheers!